The Number One Cause of Compliments

1. At The Danger of Sounding Cheezy... 
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3. What is this word, "cheezy"? 
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5. What does it really mean? 
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7. Why must it be embedded to degrade such a large number of important and positive articulations of affection and sympathy? 
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9. "Not to sound cheezy"... "I don't intend to sound like I care"... "I'm not needing you believe I'm weak"... "I don't need you to get the feeling that I give a poop". 
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11. It is my conviction that the dread of "sounding cheezy" is the main source of compliments not given, connections not being supported, and friendship not being appeared. 
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13. I am as blameworthy as anybody. Frequently, as I am paying a compliment or planning to state something pleasant, I lead into it with something like, "Not to sound cheezy, but rather... ". This is my weakness radiating through. This is my self-uncertainty being tossed appropriate toward you. This is my being worried about the possibility that that you will imagine that I am feeble, or not extreme, or not a man. Where did this begin? 
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15. I feel that our general public has a pre-decided thought of what goes into being a "man". Shockingly, I feel that men are the ones who made the misrepresentations with respect to what is required of masculinity. Men for the most part would prefer not to be seen as adoring, mindful and supporting we need to be unpleasant, extreme, and mean. The unpleasantness, durability, and mean-ness, I have found, is typically based around a basic dread or weakness. I know this since I have spent the vast majority of my life attempting to be an extreme person, while additionally being frightful and unreliable. Not being tender, mindful, and merciful has nothing to do with being or not being masculine, and everything to do with being uncomfortable and an unwillingness to be defenseless. 
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17. It's insane how much distress can go into saying something decent to somebody, or paying a compliment. For a few people, saying the words, "I adore you" is the scariest thing they can envision. I am not recommending that you run out and tell everybody with which you shake hands that you adore them. In any case, I am stating that individuals like, need, and merit compliments so as to help them be better individuals. I can guarantee you that the danger of anybody really trusting that you are a cheezeball on the grounds that you paid them a compliment is, little. I have gotten numerous, numerous writings from developed men who have simply needed to tell me that they were considering me, they adore, and they trust I am well. At no time in time did I ever feel anything not as much as overpowered with appreciation and thankfulness for having these individuals throughout my life. Not even once did I shake my head at my telephone, and think, "what a cheeze" or "what a sissy". It simply doesn't work that way.